I’m going to let you in on something that will change your life.

You’ve just been taught a bunch of stuff that was false. It didn’t really make sense to you at the time, but you bought into it. Now you’re stuck with it, following a path that will limit your expansion, your growth, your success, and your personal sense of confidence, competence, and well-being.

You’ve been told that only hard work will open the door to success. It won’t. You’ve been told that fun is bad and a waste of time. It isn’t. You’ve been indoctrinated into the idea that you need to be good at everything to succeed. You don’t. You’ve been told that you should only rely on logic. You shouldn’t. You’ve been told it’s bad to be emotional. It’s not.

The list could go on and on.

But the point is, you’ve been fed data that is not true and not good for you. Instead, it will disperse your focus away from what you naturally do well to begin with – those things that are fun for you to do and give you pleasure. These are the things that nobody has to force you to do them as to your they give you back more than you put into them. Everybody has unique interests, talents, and desires, natively. Focusing on those things that you do well naturally is the easy way to do it.

It’s easy to tell if you’re doing what is right for you. You don’t have to be forced to do it. No one has to convince you to do it; you don’t need to be told that it’s the thing to do; you don’t even have to use self-discipline to get yourself motivated.   You enjoy the process as much as the result because you’re doing what you should be doing, and it’s fun!

Here’s the straight scoop:

Trying to be everything to everyone is a trap.

Thinking you need to know how to do everything is a trap.

Thinking that you need to run before you can walk is a trap.

Trying to please everyone is a trap.

Focusing on only what you think you need to improve is a trap.

The way out of this trap is to focus solely on what you natively do well that gives you pleasure. There are things that are easy and fun for you to do; these are what you should focus on. Hire someone else to do what you hate to do. Do what you love to do and you’ll be happier and the people around you will be happier too. Also, you’ll tend to attract more good things to you.

Knock off only doing things that others think are useful or helpful; focus on what you love.

Recognize your strengths and play to them. Don’t worry about anyone else’s strengths, just improve your own. This is where you’ll break through and begin to get recognition from the broad public.

Don’t worry about impressing anyone but yourself. Focus on what is easy for you; this is where your strengths are. Get better at those things. Ignore the rest. It’s not really your fault that you got into this trap – but now there is really no reason to stay in it.

The lyrics to the chorus to the song, “Garden Party” by Ricky Nelson say it better than I ever could.

“But it’s all right now, I learned my lesson well. You see, ya’ can’t please everyone so, ya’ got to please yourself.”

Daniel Jacobs

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