When your sole motivation for living is “more is never enough,”  you can easily condemn yourself to a life sentence to unhappiness and frustration.

The idea that “more equals success” is a not a workable solution to everything; it’s mostly a symptom of an obsession or disease which has the potential to metastasize into every part of your life.

It’s a sign of an uncontrollable need for more; which in itself is a sign of insecurity, an indicator of fear of failure, moral weakness, and ethical blindness; it’s also a warning sign of the fixated preoccupation with “What do others think of me?” And the withdrawal symptoms are no less severe and debilitating than those experienced when coming off heroin.

The chase for something that can never be reached (this indefinable thing called “more”) inevitably leads to entrapment in the prison of compulsive need and obsessive want.

Happiness becomes a short-lived “high” that disappears once the thrill wears off; leaving you on a never-ending quest for your next “fix for more,” which itself is as fleeting as a gambler’s lucky streak.

The mantra of every person who strives to best every competitor seeking to reach the top may well be that more is never enough.

But the secret, known to anyone who has ever reached the apex, is the discovery that you are only in competition with yourself. And until you recognize this fact and accept yourself as you are today, dissatisfaction and frustration will be your constant companions.

Yes, the “more is never enough” precept does have limited workability. But it also has a fatal flaw, easily illustrated, but not advised. Try applying this concept to drinking coffee, alcohol, food or even water, using the “more is never enough” idea to a flood, wind, rain, sun, snow or any other natural phenomena. Or how about applying the concept to people in general? How does that idea work out for you in those conditions?

Anything can be done to excess. But only moderation, temperance, restraint, rational self-control and a healthy helping of common sense can hold in check the compulsive need and obsessive want for more. It should come as is no surprise that therein lies answer the question of “how much is enough?” and which opens the doorway to happiness and self-satisfaction in life.

Daniel Jacobs

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